Dating someone older than your mother
These are some things I wish younger guys knew about dating older women to help make that age gap seem less like a burden and more like a benefit.Whether this be the general stereotype of a woman or specific to an older woman, men can sometimes treat us like their mothers.It doesn't mean we are mad at them — or mad about anything, for that matter. Just because I don't like being in a club surrounded by young adults I view as children doesn't mean I can't have fun. It's OK for younger guys to not fully know what they want to do with their lives, but us nudging them to start thinking about it is like asking them to take a bullet for us.Personal space is something I value, and it's something I need. We women who are dating younger men just grew out of the frat party mentality years ago, opting for better alcohol and a more mature crowd. It's an immediate trigger when you're dating a younger guy.
As one self-described ‘grandad botherer’ aged 30, (let’s call her Daisy) told The Debrief ‘during my twenties I just realised that older guys were classier and cooler about most stuff than men by own age’.
Compromise and communication are the staples of any healthy bond.
And admitting when you're wrong isn't admitting defeat... At the end of the day, their ridiculous concerns and our inevitable frustration is a part of the relationship we signed up for.
I'd ideally love to live in that mindset — one that is naive to how truly fucked the world is right now. I don't know what it is about younger guys, but their egos seems to be more of an issue than guys my age.
But 2016 well and truly did us all over, and while my boyfriend nods his head and insists he agrees, he doesn't seem to understand what any of this means for the future, nor does he seem to be worried about the consequences. Meeting halfway is not giving in, it's just part of the relationship.